If you are a Mom of any kind – a mom with young children, mom with older children, homeschool mom, working mom, work-at-home mom – you know that things don’t always go according to plan. Life can be CrAzY! From the moment our feet hit the floor to the moment we lay our heads on our pillows at night we are doing something or taking care of someone. Life can be chaotic, can’t it? Today I want to share my heart with you on how we can embrace the chaos.
The last couple of days – who am I kidding? It’s more like the last several weeks – have been doozies! I just can’t accomplish all that needs to be accomplished. I have school to teach the kids, the baby to take care of, my blog to work on, laundry to fold, piles of stuff around the house to attend to, the organizing disaster in the kids’ room, dinner to make, commitments at church, speech class for F. Not to mention trying to find a few minutes of quiet to get in the Word. If you’re a mom, you know what I’m talking about! By the end of the day I sometimes feel tired, frustrated, and cranky, wondering how in the world I will ever be able to fit it all in. As I asked myself that today, I got an answer. “You won’t”. I know that doesn’t sound very encouraging, but let’s think about it for a minute. We can’t always fit EVERYTHING in one day. And that’s okay. All those things will be there for us to do tomorrow. (I know – you’re jumping for joy at that thought.) I believe that knowing this can help us to relax and breathe a little.
GOD IS THERE WITH YOU
I remember during a time of worship at church a few years ago, we were singing a song that spoke of how God is in the chaos. I honestly cannot remember the song right now. But as I was singing I got a picture in my mind. I was standing in the kitchen loading dishes in the dishwasher. The house was loud with the sound of the kids running around and playing. And in the midst of that chaos Jesus was standing there with me. Oh, the feeling of peace that comes over me when I remember that picture. God was reminding me that He is always there. When you have kids, things WILL get crazy and chaotic at times. Plans won’t go the way we would like them to. You may go to bed with piles of laundry sitting on the couches or floors. Maybe the kid’s room is still a disaster or the desk is in need of major organizing. He’s there with you. Acknowledge it. Rest in Him. Enjoy Him. Be led by His Spirit and trust Him to help you accomplish what needs to be accomplished that day. Whatever you didn’t have time for that day, trust that you will get to it in the right time.
“So be careful how you live. Don’t live like fools, but like those who are wise. Make the most of every opportunity in these evil days. Don’t act thoughtlessly, but understand what the Lord wants you to do.”
EMBRACE THE CHAOS
A dear friend of mine gave me an art piece to hang up on a wall in my house that says, “Embrace the Chaos”. I think that fits life with kids, don’t you? 😉 If we are already expecting things to be crazy sometimes and we determine beforehand to “run with it”, maybe the chaos won’t get to us as much. Embrace it. Embrace the life that God has given you. Embrace being a mom. Embrace your kids. Embrace your husband. Embrace God. Embrace the wonderful chaos that comes with having a family because without them things would be awfully quiet.
“Lord, you alone are my inheritance, my cup of blessing. You guard all that is mine. The land you have given me is a pleasant land. What a wonderful inheritance! I will bless the Lord who guides me; even at night my heart instructs me. I know the Lord is always with me. I will not be shaken, for he is right beside me.”
With this fresh perspective on our hearts, let’s talk about how we can sort through our endless “to-dos” and make the most of the time God has given us today.
- Sit down and make a list of all your to-dos and commitments. Put them in order from the most important to the least important. This could be for the day, the week, the month, the year – whatever you need at the time.
- Start at the top and work your way down. It’s okay if you don’t get to everything. You can pick up where you left off the next day.
- Don’t get so overwhelmed with your list that you don’t take time for fun with your kids! This is something I struggle with. I get so overwhelmed with what I have to do that I don’t always stop and play for a little bit with my children.
- Set aside distractions. Things like our phones, social media, a new magazine, etc. can rob us of our time. I definitely think there is a time and place for those things. However, when you have a chunk of time you are using to accomplish some things on your list, make a decision that you will not pick up those distractions. Focus on the task at hand. All those things will be there later. I do not like the feeling I get when I allow myself to get distracted during the time I set aside to get some stuff done. I look at the clock and realize it’s already been 15 or 20 minutes! Yikes! I could have put away a couple loads of laundry or taught a reading lesson in that time!!
When things in your day don’t go as you plan, remember that He sees you. He is there with you. He never leaves you or forsakes you. He strengthens you. He holds you. He leads you. He loves you.